Mockery of one’s mother is the pinnacle of extreme disrespect.

I received a very disturbing text from my son stating, “I was just about to fight someone.” I immediately went into Mommy mode and told him, “DO NOT!” He then informed me that, he and the kid were joking around and then the other kid called his mom (ME) a “B*TCH”! LAUGHABLE…there’s no way! Who me? LOL 

Being called a “B*tch” doesn’t and never has bothered me to be honest.  I kinda embrace the term, as I can sometimes act like one and quite frankly some people deserve to see that side of me. 

As a mother, I went straight into fix it mode by telling him to brush it off cuz the kid doesn’t know me. I told him people are going to say dumb shit all his life, he can’t allow things that people say bother him. Not only that but he would be at risk for suspension if he in fact DID retaliate. He’s just going to have to learn to brush dumbshit off!!!

I later told my man what happened and he told me I was wrong for what I told my son. *Clutches pearls* What do you mean I was WRONG?

HEREIN LIES why MEN are IMPERATIVE to raising children!  

But first, LET ME TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY…as a woman, I do NOT look at things as a man does, nor do I understand things as a man does.  

AND…I NEVER WILL!

Therefore, I appreciate my friend for being comfortable enough to open my eyes to my wrong doing as a mother of a young melanated teenage male. I also have to commend myself for being WOMAN enough to take his honest criticism and apply it, rather than become offended and dismiss what he was teaching me. NEVER WILL I EVER want my son to look like a punk by allowing anyone to disrespect his family.

I didn’t think about the rage that wells up inside of a man or boy when someone spews disrespectful words about their loved ones, especially his MOTHER. 

MEN are from MARS and WOMEN are from VENUS

Why in the world would we compare men and women to planets? Well, Mars is named for the Roman god of war and Venus is named for the Roman goddess of love and beauty. Mars represents DESIRE, ACTION, ENERGY, and THE SURVIVAL INSTINCT of HUMANITY. Venus represents LOVE, BEAUTY, PLEASURE, CHILDREN, luck and wealth.

Hmmmm! 🤔 Makes sense doesn’t it!

When we look at the animal kingdom, males are generally socially dominant over female mammals. Out of the 76 non-human mammal species that exhibit leadership, only 7 have females that take charge during conflict, foraging or travel. It’s just the human species that has shit twisted!

Women CANNOT PROVIDE nor do we HAVE THE SURVIVAL INSTINCT OF HUMANITY! 

With that said, I had to apologize to my son for unintentionally dismissing his urge to defend his mother’s honor. My text read, “I have to apologize! Thank you for taking up for me! You were NOT wrong!” 

I refuse to stifle my son and turn him into a B*TCH because I don’t understand the psyche of a man. I am truly indebted to my man for opening my eyes. This just made it more CRYSTAL CLEAR to me that MEN are a NECESSITY not a LUXURY. Without them, things fall apart. 

85% of our youth that are in jail came from fatherless homes. It is a fact that children that have their father in their lives or a male role model are more likely to avoid high-risk behaviors, less likely to have sex at a young age, and more likely to obtain high-paying jobs and healthy, stable relationships when they grow up. They also tend to have higher IQ test scores by the age of 3 and endure fewer psychological problems throughout their lives when DADs take the role of a father seriously. (Excerpt taken from fatherly.com The Science of Dad and The “Father Effect) We will come back to this point!

EMASCULATION TRENDING…

Emasculation of the “Black” Man has been prominent for centuries. Our men were raped (in front of their families), beaten, forced to have sex with their mother’s (hence, the birth of the term Motherf*cker). This was done in order to humiliate and emasculate the black man (the leader of the black family) in order for people and their families not to respect them anymore. 

The Caribbean had “Seasoning Plantations” on which slaves were “broken”, here White Supremacists and slave owners would Buck Break (butt bust) or rape our men in front of the population to show dominance by making the “BLACK” MAN submit to them sexually. They also had our men have sex with their female family members in order to make a strong black baby for them to later sell.  

NOT SO TRENDING TOPIC…

Why do you think D. Wade’s trans-daughter was officially granted a legal name and gender change? Was this by design to further destroy our black men? Did “THEY” choose him to be the spokesperson for EMASCULATION. Just a thought! 🤷🏽‍♀️ These are just my thoughts, man! *Jay-Z voice*

Then on top of that you have magazines such as British Vogue, movies such as Wakanda Forever and social media depicting women as the dominant gender. WHY THOUGH? Hmmm emoji further emasculation? 

Let’s take a look at the British Vogue magazine cover with Rihanna and ASAP. Now, y’all know how I feel about her and YES I KNOW THE ARTICLE WAS ABOUT HER! Let’s talk about it real quick. How many of y’all looked at Rocky holding Rza and thought OH WOW…he’s so masculine walking behind his girl holding the baby? I thought it was nice photo but some men were thrown by the depiction. I get it!

Okay, I know I’ve gone on a FULL BLOWN RANT but rock wit’ me! 

Let me run these stats for y’all! 18.3 million children live without a father in the home and 85% of the youth in jail come from fatherless homes. With that being said, a child that is raised solely by a mother is more likely to end up in jail than a child solely raised by the father.  Those are the facts people!  But you see the JUDICIAL SYSTEM (created by white men) is set up to favor MOTHERS not FATHERS. WHY?…to continue to destroy the family. IT’S AN AGENDA!  ANOTHER FORM OF SLAVERY!  DUH!!!

STRONG BLACK WOMAN has been a trend which is causing shit to go awry!  BUT CARRY ON, SIS!

I AM A WOMAN…

Yes, women are strong!  Yes, women are INTELLIGENT! Yes, women are capable of doing MANY THINGS!  However, we are NOT CAPABLE of handling a MAN’S JOB!  NO, I am NOT knocking women but we have a place and we have gotten beside ourselves. We out here smellin’ ourselves! Whew…we stink!

We’ve allowed our traumatizing experiences with TOXIC, unhealed men to turn us away from and against ALL MEN. We have dealt with men that have hurt us time and time again so now we are at a point where we think, “Sh*t, I can do bad all by myself!” B*tch and you will! LMAO…I’ve had my share of horrible experiences with men, but I would NEVER hold ALL MEN accountable for what those few men did to me…feel me! But BITTER BABY MOMMAS and BOSS BITCHES wanna rule the world. 🤦🏽‍♀️ WE GON DIE!

Ephesians 5:21-23 states, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.  He who loves his wife loves himself.

And whom was created FIRST? The PROTECTOR!!!

I’m wrapping this up…

God knows his people and I know he’s up there shaking his head like these DAMN HUMANS I CREATED just wanna destroy everything!  

As a loving mother, I cannot allow my BRILLIANT, YOUNG, MELANATED son to think he is less than because society wants to break him. I’m gonna build him up and let him know that he is to be treated with respect and if ANYONE disrespects him, he is EXPECTED to defend himself and his family!

We are still dealing with slavery, Folks! 

If you don’t see it, then you are a part of the problem! We gotta get to a point where we stop emasculating our men and build them up because the system was built to BUCK BREAK our men on a daily basis through emasculation by their own mothers, sisters, wives, girlfriends etc.

WHEW! That was a lot! I hope you take what I said do some research before coming at me crazy.

LASTLY…

Next time someone decides to disrespect my son in ANY MANNER…he has my permission to “WHOOP YO ASS FOR DISRESPECTING HIS MOTHER, B*TCH!”

~Elle aka Fese