*TRIGGER WARNING*

One thing about me, I don’t play when it comes to my family! I don’t care WHO it is…we can be distant, close or in between BUT if someone does something to MINE, IT AIN’T GON’ BE PRETTY!

People are so NASTY these days but I attribute that to the fact that they don’t love themselves enough to love or care about anyone else.

WITH THAT BEING SAID

I had to get in someone’s ass for coming at mine the wrong way. So, y’all know I’m in Florida playing Guardian for my lil Cousin while her parents are on vacay.

😔I get to the school to pick her up from aftercare, sign her out and then wait for her to come around that corner. She comes around the corner and her head is hanging low, hair disheveled, one shoe tied and the other untied, pencil bag in hand, PE bag in the other hand, her backpack on her back and tears rollin’ down her cute little cheeks. I look at her and ask what’s wrong. Her head drops lower and she says that she doesn’t want to talk about it.

🥴 skkkeeerrrrtttt

*CONVERSATION IN MY HEAD* What do you mean you don’t wanna talk about it? THE F*CK happened that she doesn’t want to talk about it?

Me thinking that a kid did or said something to her, I say, “You know I fight kids, right?” No laughter. No response what👏🏽so👏🏽ever👏🏽 just head hanging low with tear stained cheeks. So, I tell her she HAS to talk about it. SHE REFUSED, so I immediately texted her mother. Within seconds she received a call from her mother to see what the issue was.

EAR HUSTLER

So, of course 😉 I was ear hustling cuz I’m ready to f*ck sh*t up at this point. She tells her Mom that the aftercare teacher(s) accused her of saying curse words. NOW SHE IS NOTHING LIKE YOURS TRULY that will SPEW curse words during prayer…NOPE! She ain’t take after me AT ALL! This is an extremely sweet and sensitive child that teachers would LOVE TO CLONE. The kind of kid that takes her morals and values SERIOUSLY!

Okay so, Kel (lil cousin) got flustered because she got yelled at and spoken to disrespectfully. She apologized to the teacher, even though she didn’t do anything; due to the yelling she just acquiesced to “save face” for a lack of better words. (I’m getting frustrated all over again).

After she finished speaking to her Mom about the incident, she started to open up to me and provided more details about what occurred during aftercare. She revealed that it was a male teacher that decided to accuse and YELL at her.  Naturally, I started preparing myself mentally to make a visit to her school the next day. 

I notified her Mother (Na) about the remainder of the story. She was shocked when I said it was a male teacher that was involved. She questioned my text and I immediately received a call from Europe! She wanted clarity! After clarifying, I let her know that I was going to be taking a trip to the school the next day to talk to “Mr. I Got My Panties in a Bunch”. Cuz naaaaahhhhh! 🤬

THE NEXT MORNING

I was up bright and early all chipper, had my clothes ironed and EVERYTHING!  I WAS READY, you hear me?!!! When we arrived, all of the teachers were at their posts for morning arrivals. So, I had to wait a bit to speak to the teacher. PATIENCE MY FRIEND! (I have no patience and I hate waiting.) Once he finished at his post, the office notified him that he had a parent that wanted to speak with him.  When he came around the corner, he had a look on his face that read, “OH SHOOT, I EFFED UP.” You SHOLE DID, Bucko!!!

I didn’t allow the man to get in a word edgewise…I didn’t 🤷🏽‍♀️ He tried to talk over me but I didn’t allow it!

HOSTILE TERRITORY

The conversation got a little heated and YES I threw a few curse words in here and there 🤷🏽‍♀️ because all I could think of was seeing Kel come around that corner with tears rolling down her cheeks. (That moment reminded me of my brother’s educational experience which was rather rough. However, that was to be expected cuz we lived in Colorado and attended a majority caucasian school.) So, my emotions got the best of me and I started tearing up due to the experiences life had thrown at my brother and me. But people don’t give a damn about the things that others go through. Although, I believe that TEACHERS should care and take their students life experiences into consideration (maybe that’s just the type of teacher I am), but this one clearly doesn’t give a flyin’ f*ck. My former self, the one with the horrible temper started to rear her ugly head. I be ready to f*ck people up but can’t cuz I have a life to live…feel me?! I’ve learned to suppress my temper and aggressiveness praise God.

TO THE LEFT

Like I said the conversation kinda went left and he looks at me and says, “You are belittling me ma’am so I’m going to end this conversation right here.” I rebut by lookin him straight in his eyes and saying, “Hmmm kinda like you did her yesterday, huh? It doesn’t feel good does it?” I then told him that I was trying to be as professional as possible but he is NOT to speak to Kel in that manner again 🤷🏽‍♀️😂🤣and followed that up with, “Do you understand me?!” I was so f*ckin serious cuz WHO THE F*CK YOU THINK YOU TALKING TO LIKE THAT? I also had to let him know that our family doesn’t do that to “Black Sh*t” where kids are seen and not heard or in other words NOT RESPECTED.

RESPECT GOES BOTH WAYS

Children are tiny humans that deserve respect. They have feelings, that are valid and they too create their own boundaries. We, MELANATED people gotta do better about treating our children with love and respect and teaching them that they too, deserve respect JUST like adults. We also need to learn to start listening to our children as well, as they are not always telling false truths. 😂 but seriously teachers have a tendency to throw a little razzle dazzle on stories especially if the child isn’t well behaved. OH YOU BETTER BELIEVE IT!!! Pay attention to your children…STOP DISMISSING THEM!

Although, I didn’t handle this situation as professionally as I had thought I should; I am glad that I was able to be a STRONG SUPPORT for Kel. God knew 47 years ago that I would be standing in Na’s place as Kel’s guardian. I’m just thankful that he saw fit to have ME be here for her.

END OF CONVERSATION

Before I allowed “Mr. Panties in a Bunch” go, I let him know that Kel’s parents would be paying him a visit when they return from vacation. 

NEEDLESS TO SAY

He didn’t work aftercare that afternoon. LMFAO I guess he thought her parents were going to show up after school THAT day HAHAHA! Oh no, Bucko you ain’t dodging that bullet. Mr. & Mrs. Coates will be doing a Jesus move and will arrive at the school “like a thief in the night”. 😂🤣 He won’t be prepared…YOIKES!

Wow…spiritual lesson here…MAKE SURE YOU ARE READY FOR THAT GREAT DAY when GOD CRACKS THE SKY to take us back home! Cuz we NEVER KNOW the DAY NOR the HOUR. Just sayin’!

PRAYER

God, I know! I KNOW!  I did not handle that situation as professionally and Christ-like as I wanted to. You know my heart and my why! I thank you for the opportunity to be there for Kel and to let her see that she can count on her family. Thank you for allowing me to see that I have to start controlling my emotions better. 

Alright ya’ll that’s yet another testimony. Boy, being in Florida has really been a blessing in so many ways.

Thanks for reading,

Always,

~ Elle

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